Why do Narcissists text everyday or call and declare their love for you but yet does not care to make time for you?
The answer is kind of a mindfuck but needs to be understood. Contrary to love you, the Narcissist views you as weak, easy prey because love to the Narcissist is a flaw, and it repulses them. So in truth, you are the object of narcissistic hatred if you do love them, although their keeping you hooked creates trauma bonding. Trauma bonding makes it hard for victims of narcissist abuse to leave and this exactly where the Narcissist wants to keep you. They do not want you to move on even though the “relationship” with them is tortuous and tumultuous.
So the Narcissist couldn’t care less about you as a person, but they do like the fringe benefits they get by being engaging in relationships with multiple sources. They hate to part with these benefits so Narcissists love to string you along with constant and annoying phone calls and texts all about nothing but will be sure to inject “I love you” just frequently enough so you tolerate this barrage of blowing up your phone with meaningless messages, much ado about nothing.
So think about this: You are the object of narcissistic dislike or hatred when you feel and show human emotions for them, yet they need you and suck you dry like an emotional vampire to extract from you what they need to survive as a narcissist! This could be money, shelter, caretaking/ housekeeping duties and anything that absolves them of adult responsibilities because Narcissists are childish, selfish individuals who never successfully launch as adults. They are addicts by nature, especially sex addicts, so they’ll always carry on affairs with others. And straight up, just as you said they’d make very little time for you especially after your primary faux relationship has ended and they’ve returned to take advantage of whatever particular fringe benefits you offer.
These calls and texts and expressions of love from the Narcissist are nothing more than breadcrumbing, doing the bare minimum to keep you hooked as they entitle themselves to your taking care of their needs on a whim, their agenda, but in return, they’ll make little time for you. They won’t take you out, hold your hand, spend money on you, take time to listen to your wants and needs, and especially will be absent in times of need. They’re in a relationship with themselves; you are just an extension. But you’ll be expected to be there for them as needed and endure their use and abuse.
One of the key things to remember after you’ve escaped a relationship with a Narcissist which always equates to a highly toxic and abusive engagement, do not answer any calls or texts!