What Makes a Narcissist Block You?
Undeniably, blocking is BY FAR the most pathetic and cowardly game that Narcissists love to play.
They will block you for different reasons, and the number one goal is to elicit control over you and make you submissive. This is also their way of showing just how little you mean to them.
They do this to mess with your head and leave you in complete panic and distress.
They KNOW what they are doing when they do this. They KNOW that you love them, and that you aren’t just going to easily move on and forget them. They KNOW you are going to try finding another way to reach out to them, and they will only just make you look weak and desperate when you try to communicate. They conveniently time their blocking when they have a replacement already lined up. This person will be someone you have no clue about because they’ve been planning this behind your back!
They will become so cruel to you at this point because they are bored of you and want nothing more to do with you. You no longer give them the thrill like you used to. You’re no longer their primary source or top trophy. They could care less about your existence because someone else has already taken up all their “love”, time and attention. They have already groomed you to know that even if they block you and disappear, that you will be willing to take them back because you just want so desperately to fix things. They do this intentionally knowing that they can just crawl their way back in whenever they choose, and you will continue to accept all the disrespect they throw at you.
When you try to get answers as to why they have blocked you, they will tell you to leave them alone, move on, and that they no longer want anything to do with you, or they may just block you again and ignore you completely. They know that you are heartbroken, going crazy, panicking, crying yourself to sleep everyday, and feeling like you can’t breathe. They don’t care at all or have any regrets about their impulsive choice to shut you out, because they are getting their needs met elsewhere and had no attachment to you whatsoever in the first place. You are nothing but yesterday’s news.
Long before the blocking happens, they usually have started to devalue you. This could include different things such as ignoring your messages or calls, not liking or commenting on your social media profiles if you post anything new but they seem to be loving up on all these other random people except you, they will be mean to you and start subtly putting you down, they will stop complimenting you and saying anything nice, you will be the only one making all the effort to initiate any contact and they will just make you feel like you are annoying them, they will call you too needy or clingy by just trying to get in touch with them, they will call you jealous and controlling even though they are deliberately flirting with people in front of you, they will call you too sensitive or dramatic by voicing your concerns, they will dismiss and reject any opinions you have, they will tell you that they find you boring and want more variety, they will tell you that they are attracted to other people, they will prefer to watch porn or go to strip clubs then have an intimate connection with you, they will withhold sex from you, they won’t want to be affectionate at all, they will prioritize spending their days away on partying, chasing after random women/men, hanging out with their friends, doing drugs & alcohol but never being a responsible contributing adult, they will only give you the time of day when they are horny or they need something from you otherwise they make you feel completely irrelevant at this point.
They do all these things knowing full blown that you are going to call them out eventually, and they do this as a way to test to see just how much you are willing to put up with.
The second you call them out on anything, even if your concerns are justified, and warranted; they will block you! They don’t want to hear anything you have to say that will hold them accountable for any of their actions. You are left feeling so hurt and abandoned because all you did was devote yourself to this person by being kind, loving, caring, loyal, and giving to only just have them treat you as though you are their worst enemy. They dispose of you like you are nothing more than a finished meal with leftover scraps that they throw into the trash. It doesn’t matter how long you invested in them or how good of a person you are, they will block you and disappear in the most cruelest way imaginable.
They will leave you without any answers as to why they have decided to drop you for someone else after you gave them everything they asked for. Nothing can be and will ever be enough for them. They will never be fully satisfied having a single person provide them things, they need to have additional supply and will constantly be using, abusing and then tossing away any person that is willing to dance to the beat of their drum.
They will block you to see how you respond. They thrive off of seeing you chase them, beg them and plead for them to give you another chance. They love seeing you in such a traumatic state giving them so much power and control over you. They will laugh about you to their friends and family showing how pathetic you are, they will tell their new supply that you are the crazy stalking ex that won’t leave them alone, they will test you to see how you react and they truly get off knowing you are completely losing yourself over them.
If you have dared to call them out on their actions and that’s why they have blocked you, then they will keep you blocked for a long period of time, so that if and when they ever do come back around and decide to unblock you, they will ensure that you NEVER cross that line again or else you know the consequence of what will happen. Their complete goal is to have dominance over you and just further continue to abuse you, no questions asked, or else!!
If they decide to unblock you, don’t be deceived into thinking that they are doing it because they love you, miss you, care for you, or want to apologize. They don’t respect you at all! They will only come back around so they can use you as a doortmat that will support their toxic lifestyle and put up with whatever shit they throw at you. They will come back around when their current supply didn’t work out like they thought it would, because the person has flaws, insecurities, needs, feelings, and opinions like the rest of us. They get bored of everyone and just recycle back to the ones they know are easy to manipulate. They will keep you in their life at their disposal, and will just discard of you again and block you once they have found someone else! They will continuously just repeat the same cycle over and over again until you are a broken shell of a person.
Once someone blocks you and plays immature little tactics like this to control you and hurt you, then you need to understand there is nothing more to salvage. Doing that to someone is very disrespectful, and is also extremely toxic to the person on the receiving end. It hurts so badly knowing that in one second you can be so easily dropped after everything you have sacrificed for them. If someone has blocked you like this, then just walk away and don’t give into their manipulative abuse. Take your dignity, your self-respect, your heart and walk away with pride knowing you did everything you could and you loved with all you had, but that it’s not meant to be anymore with this person. If someone can do this to you and cut you out like that knowing how much you are hurt, then they don’t love you. A healthy relationship involves communication that is compromising and mutually considerate of both people involved. It’s not suppose to be a one sided dictatorship that makes you be a slave to someone else. If a person really loves you, they would want to hear what you have to say and will genuinely take the time to correct their mistakes and change for the better. They would never hurt you, abuse you, cheat on you, ignore you, lie to you, mistreat you and then abandon you at the drop of a hat.
Learn to recognize that what you are experiencing isn’t love, but an unhealthy addiction that’s built on trauma bonding and codependency. Once you realize your true value, and start acknowledging that you are deserving of so much more, then you will be the one in complete control and won’t care if they blocked you because you can move on with your life and be happy again!
Once they have blocked you, take that as a sign that the door is closed. This person was just a chapter in your book, but isn’t the rest of your story. Let this be a lesson of what to avoid in the future so that you can learn to love yourself, while being around the company of people who love you too! Nobody is worth obsessing over if they so easily cut you out at the click of a button and never looked back. Never forget your worth and the value you bring, and don’t ever let anyone make you feel small.
“If someone is stupid enough to walk away from you, be smart enough to let them go.”
Unmasking Sociopath “The Real Cleveland Wright Jr” @ clevelandwrightjr.is