What Makes a Narcissist Block You?
Undeniably, blocking is BY FAR the most pathetic and cowardly game that Narcissists love to play.
They will block you for different reasons, and the number one goal is to elicit control over you and make you submissive. This is also their way of showing just how little you mean to them.
They do this to mess with your head and leave you in complete panic and distress.
They KNOW what they are doing when they do this. They KNOW that you love them, and that you aren’t just going to easily move on and forget them. They KNOW you are going to try finding another way to reach out to them, and they will only just make you look weak and desperate when you try to communicate. They conveniently time their blocking when they have a replacement already lined up. This person will be someone you have no clue about because they’ve been planning this behind your back!
They will become so cruel to you at this point because they are bored of you and want nothing more to do with you. You no longer give them the thrill like you used to. You’re no longer their primary source or top trophy. They could care less about your existence because someone else has already taken up all their “love”, time and attention. They have already groomed you to know that even if they block you and disappear, that you will be willing to take them back because you just want so desperately to fix things. They do this intentionally knowing that they can just crawl their way back in whenever they choose, and you will continue to accept all the disrespect they throw at you.
When you try to get answers as to why they have blocked you, they will tell you to leave them alone, move on, and that they no longer want anything to do with you, or they may just block you again and ignore you completely. They know that you are heartbroken, going crazy, panicking, crying yourself to sleep everyday, and feeling like you can’t breathe. They don’t care at all or have any regrets about their impulsive choice to shut you out, because they are getting their needs met elsewhere and had no attachment to you whatsoever in the first place. You are nothing but yesterday’s news.
Long before the blocking happens, they usually have started to devalue you. This could include different things such as ignoring your messages or calls, not liking or commenting on your social media profiles if you post anything new but they seem to be loving up on all these other random people except you, they will be mean to you and start subtly putting you down, they will stop complimenting you and saying anything nice, you will be the only one making all the effort to initiate any contact and they will just make you feel like you are annoying them, they will call you too needy or clingy by just trying to get in touch with them, they will call you jealous and controlling even though they are deliberately flirting with people in front of you, they will call you too sensitive or dramatic by voicing your concerns, they will dismiss and reject any opinions you have, they will tell you that they find you boring and want more variety, they will tell you that they are attracted to other people, they will prefer to watch porn or go to strip clubs then have an intimate connection with you, they will withhold sex from you, they won’t want to be affectionate at all, they will prioritize spending their days away on partying, chasing after random women/men, hanging out with their friends, doing drugs & alcohol but never being a responsible contributing adult, they will only give you the time of day when they are horny or they need something from you otherwise they make you feel completely irrelevant at this point.
They do all these things knowing full blown that you are going to call them out eventually, and they do this as a way to test to see just how much you are willing to put up with.
The second you call them out on anything, even if your concerns are justified, and warranted; they will block you! They don’t want to hear anything you have to say that will hold them accountable for any of their actions. You are left feeling so hurt and abandoned because all you did was devote yourself to this person by being kind, loving, caring, loyal, and giving to only just have them treat you as though you are their worst enemy. They dispose of you like you are nothing more than a finished meal with leftover scraps that they throw into the trash. It doesn’t matter how long you invested in them or how good of a person you are, they will block you and disappear in the most cruelest way imaginable.
They will leave you without any answers as to why they have decided to drop you for someone else after you gave them everything they asked for. Nothing can be and will ever be enough for them. They will never be fully satisfied having a single person provide them things, they need to have additional supply and will constantly be using, abusing and then tossing away any person that is willing to dance to the beat of their drum.
They will block you to see how you respond. They thrive off of seeing you chase them, beg them and plead for them to give you another chance. They love seeing you in such a traumatic state giving them so much power and control over you. They will laugh about you to their friends and family showing how pathetic you are, they will tell their new supply that you are the crazy stalking ex that won’t leave them alone, they will test you to see how you react and they truly get off knowing you are completely losing yourself over them.
If you have dared to call them out on their actions and that’s why they have blocked you, then they will keep you blocked for a long period of time, so that if and when they ever do come back around and decide to unblock you, they will ensure that you NEVER cross that line again or else you know the consequence of what will happen. Their complete goal is to have dominance over you and just further continue to abuse you, no questions asked, or else!!
If they decide to unblock you, don’t be deceived into thinking that they are doing it because they love you, miss you, care for you, or want to apologize. They don’t respect you at all! They will only come back around so they can use you as a doortmat that will support their toxic lifestyle and put up with whatever shit they throw at you. They will come back around when their current supply didn’t work out like they thought it would, because the person has flaws, insecurities, needs, feelings, and opinions like the rest of us. They get bored of everyone and just recycle back to the ones they know are easy to manipulate. They will keep you in their life at their disposal, and will just discard of you again and block you once they have found someone else! They will continuously just repeat the same cycle over and over again until you are a broken shell of a person.
Once someone blocks you and plays immature little tactics like this to control you and hurt you, then you need to understand there is nothing more to salvage. Doing that to someone is very disrespectful, and is also extremely toxic to the person on the receiving end. It hurts so badly knowing that in one second you can be so easily dropped after everything you have sacrificed for them. If someone has blocked you like this, then just walk away and don’t give into their manipulative abuse. Take your dignity, your self-respect, your heart and walk away with pride knowing you did everything you could and you loved with all you had, but that it’s not meant to be anymore with this person. If someone can do this to you and cut you out like that knowing how much you are hurt, then they don’t love you. A healthy relationship involves communication that is compromising and mutually considerate of both people involved. It’s not suppose to be a one sided dictatorship that makes you be a slave to someone else. If a person really loves you, they would want to hear what you have to say and will genuinely take the time to correct their mistakes and change for the better. They would never hurt you, abuse you, cheat on you, ignore you, lie to you, mistreat you and then abandon you at the drop of a hat.
Learn to recognize that what you are experiencing isn’t love, but an unhealthy addiction that’s built on trauma bonding and codependency. Once you realize your true value, and start acknowledging that you are deserving of so much more, then you will be the one in complete control and won’t care if they blocked you because you can move on with your life and be happy again!
Once they have blocked you, take that as a sign that the door is closed. This person was just a chapter in your book, but isn’t the rest of your story. Let this be a lesson of what to avoid in the future so that you can learn to love yourself, while being around the company of people who love you too! Nobody is worth obsessing over if they so easily cut you out at the click of a button and never looked back. Never forget your worth and the value you bring, and don’t ever let anyone make you feel small.
“If someone is stupid enough to walk away from you, be smart enough to let them go.”
Unmasking Sociopath “The Real Cleveland Wright Jr” @ clevelandwrightjr.is
The narc will always block you if he perceives you to be a threat to his public image. The one thing I have found that a narcissist is insanely concerned about is what his public image will be. My narc would constantly be concerned more about how a stranger would view him than how his comments or behaviors would make me feel. He once got angry with me for sharing with a good neighborly friend of mine about an aspect of MY work life, because he didn’t want people pitying HIM for being with me… And he truly didn’t even understand how hurtful that comment was to ME! He seemed actually surprised that I even raised an issue about it… one of the few GENUINE reactions I recall from him… Confusion was one of the most often-felt genuine emotions that I felt from him… confusion at my emotional reactions to the horrible things he would do and say.
If anything could be perceived as negative by your association with him, he will block you without question.. Hastily and with no remorse… Mine went tyrannical based on a few song posts I shared from my spotify as they could be perceived as echoing our rocky relationship…
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When they are scared that you’re going to expose what they are & how they really treat you behind closed doors to their close circle of fake friends that think he’s SO charming & wonderful.
He/she has been secretly slamming you, your reputation & saying you’ve ruined the relationship the entire time together.
They convince these fake friends that you’re an insane horrible person behind your back to cover their own ass.
Their superior reputation is something they MUST NOT HAVE RUINED …they must destroy yours & do so viciously (smear campaign).
The narc purposely smears you behind your back ahead of time during the relationship while lying that you’re in a good (fake) relationship with them. That way when you finally find out exactly what they are & the horrible things they’ve been doing behind your back, the fake friends won’t believe you if you tell them.
The narc has brainwashed the fake friends into believing everything he says.
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Yep! I experienced this one to know end!
For mine it was power. What better way to control the conversation than to block me as soon as I attempted to say anything he didn’t want to hear? We could talk for days about what a horrid piece of offal I was, that was one of his favorite subjects. But the minute I tried to talk about something that he’d done to hurt my feelings he’d say, “One more word and I’m blocking you.” It left me with two choices. Speak my mind and get blocked or agree that I was the one who was wrong. He would block me and then continue swearing at me and calling me vicious names. That I couldn’t even respond to. There was no point trying to defend my actions or myself. Any attempt I made to correct him he would call me a liar and I’d get blocked.
Their gigantic, fragile ego is threatened but some truth or other that you represent.
If that truth gets out, their mask is compromised which could theoretically lead to the narcissist having to confront their true self, of whom they are pathalogically ashamed and embarrassed.
In order to maintain denial of their true self, they must edit all reminders of such from their lives.
If you are making them face who they really are. If you are telling them some home truths. They do not like being confronted with what they have done and will block you to avoid facing any accountability for their actions and behaviour. If you tell them the truth they will block you and block you rapidly. They will avoid anyone or anything that threatens the false image they are trying to protect or anything that harms their fragile ego.
I’m not sure they really do, they would never want to cease contact from anyone from what I have read. Unless, you would be a hindrance during his love bombing another chick or guy. But, even then I am pretty sure they would welcome all the attention. My ex had an ex wife who blew up his phone constantly at all hours for the first year. He just convinced me she was crazy blah blah blah. And I remember thinking wow you hate her so much yet you never tell her to leave you alone or block her. I now know he was devaluing her and giving the silent treatment.
Mainly, the need to have the last word about anything. Within the NPD configuration and at my worst, I’ve done that. When I feel completely outside the NPD configuration I still block people but for different reasons. In some cases just to prevent exchanges which are not constructive. The difference is slim but means a lot.
To add to other answers here; what makes a narcissist block you is when you confront or question their shady behavior on social media and your ability to see what they’re doing. They hate confrontation and being caught in a lie. So they twist the truth and you become the “possessive jealous” one all while they’re being flirty seeking out other sources of “supply”.
Simply punishing you and testing you to see your reaction. Their mission in life is to be as vindictive as possible because since they are so miserable, they want everyone to be miserable as they are. I would go no contact completely and even block their emails! Their goal is to make you squirm, these are mind games……. This is the only thing they know to give to their victims… playing with our emotions to see how far they can make our lives miserable while they feel nothing.
They block you because they FEAR you:
1. THE TRUTH. Narcissists hate facing the truth. They pathologically cannot accept any truth that makes them “look bad,” so they create a false reality and fortify it by manipulating people to “go along” with the biggest, most absurd lies—lies so big people don’t even know how to begin to unravel them. Narcissists can’t cope with people who see through the smoke and mirrors of this scheme of false reality, or who even question it. If something undeniable permeates his invented storyline, the narcissist has to either disappear or eliminate the threat—this is why they smear people who know what they are and what their “perfect” lives are really like.
2. People who can’t be controlled. Narcissists hate people who can see how they are being manipulated and who refuse to cooperate. The narcissist cannot cope without control, so he avoids such people completely.
3. People who respect themselves and know who they are. The narcissist must be surrounded by insecure people who follow the power in order to reassure themselves that they are on top and safe. People who are secure already know that they are good enough and do not need this reassurance—their psychological strength is feared by the narcissist.
4. Knowledge about narcissism. It really freaks narcissists out when you understand exactly how they think and how their manipulative, deceptive schemes work. When you see their whole chessboard, narcissists have no idea how to deal with you and will avoid you at all costs.
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@ CAB You NAILED IT ??….they are all about perception and not reality and they can’t stand when people catch onto their BS and start holding them accountable and telling the truth
Hey CAB Oh man! I LOVE your answer. When your resilience shines trough they are the ones walking on egg shells. If the relationship isn’t a romantic one, I have to confess that your power is so much stronger. In a friendship, it’s much more compelling when you show them you don’t need them. Dont fall into the trap of becoming the “bestie” again. Keep your well deserved distance and do YOU.
If indeed you are still in the relationship (romantic /marriage.. Going Grey Rock and sticking to your guns is possibly the best way to deny their spines. This though is very difficult. Should you have suffered the silent treatment during the devaluing stage, the utmost power is to go NO CONTACT. When you don’t speak to them and remain uncontactable. it eats at them like a cancer. They will try everything form spaghetti technique, to hoovering to stalking…….. And you remain quiet. No contact means cutting off every avenue of social media. Gmail blocks but sends their email to spam.. Either clean it or store it in a personal file (possible evidence.. These cowards will try and manipulate the legal system especially if they have psychopathic tendencies). When you render them insignificant insects, oooooh you damage their fragile egos. Don’t gloat and spend energy on what they are doing (smear campaigns whatever). Just. Move. On. They ONLY have power in as much as YOU are willing to give them. Learn to be brutal in your disregard of them and champion ONLY YOU!
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If you a person who knows their worth and knows how to set up boundaries then that will frighten a narcissist.
And what they will usually do, to keep an edge over you, is to send their flying monkeys to get intel on you. (which happens all the time with this sociopath)
They fear people who know their value. And the most powerful thing you can ever do against them is to NOT ALLOW THEM IN YOUR LIFE.
Have strong self-esteem and they will back off like the cowards they are. ✌️
Once you set up armour around you to protect yourself from the enemy. Note that the flying monkeys and others will think and say you are being paranoid (unless they become a victim of the narcissist too). I actually has someone come to me and say…”I thought you were being paranoid by asking me not to reveal anything about you, but now I see that person is pure evil.” They became an unknowing pawn in a separate situation and almost lost their reputation over being casual friends with the narcissist I tried to warn them about. Just be prepared that people will not believe you, mainly because the narcissist is usually very charming and a camelon who pretends to be the perfect friend. Then they use it to manipulate you to get what they want or hurt you if they don’t.
I definitely agree that knowledge and strong personal boundaries are powerful against narcissists.
My first gut instinct in the long term though is indifference. A narcissist thrives on causing chaos, drama and emotional reactions from people on any scale, either positive or negative.
Once you have the basic knowledge of how a narcissist operates. If you are able to control your reactions around any narcissist and remain very neutral in any given situation, they will not be getting the kind of reactions they are trying to draw out of you.
If you have gone through a relationship with a narcissist then you will have a lot of healing to do before you can get to a place where you can be indifferent or neutral around that person. But once you are in that place, that is when you know you have found the light at the end of the tunnel.
I’ve read some awesome answers, but the powerful thing against a narcissist is NO CONTACT!! I left my ex Narc Sept 2017, I literally got an email from him today! My favorite email was yesterday when he told me he misses how I treated him so badly!!! The nerve! He still believes it’s me, but it’s killing him that I refuse to talk to him, so he will bait me, like today he said even when I’m with someone else I’m thinking of you, if I took the bait and said oh you are with somebody he would change it to “I meant when I’m with my dad” see you’re acting crazy again! They know what they are doing! No contact, that’s all! Stop talking!
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