HOOVERING Archives - Cleveland Wright Jr

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Happy Narcissist Free New Year

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We Hope this new year brings new beginnings and many blessings. Mostly, that you stay free of negativity, negative influences, and of course, narcissistic abuse. I thought I would review the general traits of pathological narcissism and simple tips for creating healthy boundaries that will shield against these tactics. It’s also important to review action steps for planning to leave an abuser if you determine you’ve been victimized.

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When You Discard an Abusive Narcissist First

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Abusive relationships with a narcissist rely on an idealization-devaluation-discard cycle which enables the narcissist to degrade their victims and discard their victims without any accountability whatsoever. This cycle confirms the narcissist’s distorted sense of being superior to their victims. If the victim ‘discards’ the narcissist first, he or she upsets the power dynamic that bolsters the abuser’s desire for power and validation.