RUSHING INTIMACY –
IF IT’S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, IT PROBABLY IS
Narcissist Red Flag Rushing Intimacy is a tool a narcissist uses at that the beginning of a relationship sweep you off your feet to get you out of emotional balance. Narcissists pretend to fall in love with you quickly, and they asked deep, thoughtful questions, tell you they have never loved anyone as they love you, you are perfect in their eyes. Later you look back at how there were so many of the same interests. They loved everything you loved. They wined and dined you, and they couldn’t get enough of you. They showed you they cared about you. More than likely, it was the most romantic relationship you have ever had. It was easy to believe them.
The narcissist speeds and rushes relationship to confuse victims and not give them a chance to process what is happening and how they feel. Narcissists use the relationship tactic of “Soulmate Scam”. They turn the charm is ON, the narcissist comes on strong, sweeps you off your feet. It seems a miracle! He seems to have the same interests, goals, philosophies, tastes, and habits. He admires you, your looks, your ambitions, and your dreams. No one has ever been so perfect for him, and with predictable speed, the narcissist wants to start a life with you – NOW. He appears to be the right person with good family roots, seems helpful, comforting, enlightened, and so sensitive. You never question his integrity – there is not enough time or healthy distance to do this. Instead, you agree, you are soulmates. You may figure it out quickly, or it may take decades, but one day, you will find your knight in shining armor has become your nightmare.
Love bombing is another manipulative weapon in the arsenal of the narcissist. Love bombing literally ‘bombs’ their target, you, with compliments,texts, phone calls, flowers, gifts, selfie sending, ‘I miss you’ texts even if it’s only been a few hours. They gobble up your time, methodically isolate you from your friends as you are convincing you to spend more and more time with him. A narcissist will compare you to the others in his past and telling you how different you are, how perfect you are for them – how they wished they had met you a long time ago. They rush sexual intimacy, talk about moving in together; they go shopping with you, buying household items together – all in a whirlwind romance to marriage.
RED FLAGS OF CLEVELAND WRIGHT JR
Social Media – is a growing activity of the narcissist. This tool adds social media to his already over-the-top texting – first thing in the morning, last thing at night. Facebook posts, messenger, snap chatting, Whatsapp, to Instagram. You name it, Cleveland Wright Jr uses different messaging apps to communicate with his potential targets and his already committed harem members, this helps to draw away attention from his deceiving activities.
These add to his perceived charm, the speed, and intensity of his pursuit. If he plasters your Facebook page with compliments, flattery, songs, and poems, they text you dozens, if not hundreds of times per day. You come to rely on this over-communication as a source of confidence if this happens to you watch out for other signs.
Something else about the “Soulmate Scam” – when he quickly declares you his soul mate. For some reason, you don’t find it creepy. On the first few dates, you do most of the talking, and they can’t believe how perfect you are for them. He will tell you how much the two of you have in common.
You will be compared to everyone else in their life, ex-lovers, friends, family members, and your eventual replacement. When idealizing, they make you feel special by telling you how much better you are than these people. When devaluing, they use these comparisons to hurt you.
They tell you very personal stories about themselves. They’ll want to know everything about you. Be very careful about what you tell them too soon as they will use it against you.
**Image Courtesy of Cleveland Wright Jr of East Amherst, Buffalo NY
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