Never Look Back
She’ll leave you when she’s finally had enough. She’ll leave the false promises for the hard, acidic truth. She’ll swallow the bitter reality pill rather than another one of your saccharine falsehoods. She’ll leave you when she’s had enough of your candy-coated compliments, handed out as treats to placate her, to make her stay every time she tries to leave.
She’ll leave when she realizes the life that awaits her is more promising than any life you could’ve given her. That any addiction she had to you isn’t worth another hit that might kill her.
She knows that when she leaves you, she has to leave for good. No more tolerating your crocodile tears the next morning, after another night leaving her crying alone. No more cruel “jokes” told at her expense. No more cutting jabs in front of her loved ones. No more harsh insults, no more sabotage, no more of your petty envy making her feel small in the realms where she shines.
No more enduring death by a thousand cuts, just so no one sees the scars.
No more dimming her light. No more tiny betrayals or grand transgressions; no more indiscretions, flirtations or affairs. No more being humiliated, bullied, belittled behind closed doors. No more being abandoned out in the open, ridiculed in public. No more being told she’s not enough, in a million different ways. No more insidious mind games.
She’ll leave you when she knows time is running out. Time to heal, to create a life outside of you. Time to find herself and someone who deserves her.
You always acted like you were on the lookout for something better, but now she wants to reclaim the time she still has left – to do better and to be better, because she knows someone better will come along.
Such valuable time she’s wasted on trying to make you magically morph into a decent human being. Years or months of trying to get you to see that she’s worthy, that she never deserved to be treated like this – all down the drain and “nothing” to show for it – except for her renewed strength.
The loss of her innocence – and her naiveté. The birth of wisdom – of freedom, of independence. The renewal of her identity. Actually, come to think of it, you’re the one with everything to lose. She, in turn, will gain everything.
The thing about women who overthink, overcompensate, overexert their efforts is that they all eventually have an awakening. They all eventually realize what they deserve.
When they finally walk, they walk away for good. They know they did all they could to save the man who never existed in the first place.
When she walks away, trust her when she tells you that you won’t hear from her again. Because all the times she tried to speak, you silenced her or gave her the silent treatment. All those times she tried to get you to have a breakthrough, you broke her down and made her feel like the weak one. All those times you brought in the threat of other women, you taught her how to forget her own irreplaceability.
You tried to make her forget she was magic.
The truth is, she was the powerful one all along. When you beg her to come back, she’ll be planning her comeback – and you’ll never see it coming.
The truth is, when she finally leaves you, you’ll realize it’s not just that she never really knew you.
You never really knew her either and what she was capable of.
You never realized, did you? That she had as much power to go as she used to stay.
But when she leaves, you’ll feel it. Her silence will move worlds. It will speak more volumes and truth than the words that have passed your lips your entire lifetime.
She’ll leave you when she realizes you were never the cure – you were the poison all along.
and boy does he feel it...
Article dedicated to our Narcissist Abuse Community and to all Narcissistic Abuse Victims & Survivors of Sociopath Cleveland Wright Jr 
Unmasking Sociopath “The Real Cleveland Wright Jr” @ clevelandwrightjr.is
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Take my word for it, the first time you question if you should leave, that’s the optimal time to go. The longer I have stayed the more damage I have sustained and the more trapped I have become.
I needed to read this. my ex nightmare keeps coming back extremely toxic and warped individual. He want’s to be friend’s it’s impossible God knows I have tried. Thank you for another fabulous article!
This man took everything from me – I don’t even know what is the truth anymore this man has destroyed my self worth my self esteem my confidence everything that I was.
Never ever forget: Their fakeness was and is 100% real 😀
@ Jon H => ?
I can’t express how grateful I am I came across your channel. You have given me the strength and clarity to regain everything the narcissist took from me. My self worth, self esteem, self respect and the rest. Thank you for all the help you’ve given to so many people in this miserable, destructive situation. ?
I’m sooo glad to have you as my new found buddies!! love you ladies ❤️
Hey CAB if you are reading this we miss you! come back soon x
Thank you again for the live video tonight! If it were not for you I would be lost at this time and your words of wisdom are helping me find my way. I am very grateful to you. Please keep up the great work. I suspect someone is in love? ??♀️☺️
@ Jay B – Is that the GLOW everyone speaks of? ☺️ I hope the video helped? and thank you for the compliments. ?
Thanks for this. Not being hoovered is a compliment! It means you’ve grown and you’re too strong for them to prey on. ? Keep up the good work
I left the state my Narc was in, divorced and blocked him from everything. He better forget my name, number, AND what I look like. Forget I ever existed, move on to your next target, and leave me alone, you Piece of ?!
@ Taylah P
Mine has catfished me several times, sent me gifts, messaged me through third parties, and is using his kids to spy on me. It’s like, just be gone, I’m happy, healthy, and dating. Be gone, cockroach!
@ Natalie P => Sounds like Cleveland Wright Jr and his enablers. The number of fake messages we receive to this site from fake names, you know it’s him and his fan club. Everything about them is false! They have no authenticity about them. Being a victim myself of narcissistic abuse, you know the difference. Thank you for commenting x
Love From CA. mine used specific dates and references only I would know, it was obviously done in an obvious way.
@ Love From CA – ? We know REAL when we see it ??
omg…I immediately knew he was cat fishing me, ?? I even called him out, I replied to a message “I know this is you”, no response and the page quickly disappeared! thank you!
@ Honey T => same. I played along with it, he did this on my birthday. Called him out, profile deleted immediately. What a fool ?
Even when you think the narcissist got over you and moved on, in many cases they are still monitoring you. There are flying monkeys out there watching and observing your every move. The narcissist will use every bit of information on you to concoct a plan to get you back. This is why it is best to never share too much details about you to random strangers because you never know who’s hands they will fall into and how it will be used against you.
My ex has my family and friends on her Facebook she keeps posting on her FB how happy she is . Her flying monkeys are applauding everything she does only if everyone knew including her supply how she already did him dirty smdh .
It’s too much effort to be doing all this destructive nonsense. If only they would just apply all that effort on bettering themselves, they wouldn’t have to trick people and do all this scheming. They’re so unproductive, all they’re doing is self destruction.
exactly! i don’t even like posting on social media anymore. I figured one of his flying monkeys infiltrated my private instagram. The flying monkey gave himself away when he wrote me some random inspirational message saying: Don’t operate by what u see but what u believe! Operate by faith by sight.
I got a message from a friend that knows my x narc. I kept my response short and sweet. No information. .
Yup they always come back full force. love the article ?
I have already chosen to be alone for a while. Even if God sent me my perfect man right this very moment with a guarantee certficate, I would need to say “no, thank you”. Healing and re-establishing standards – there is nothing more important. Because if we sincerely look back – we all have lowered our standards at one point. So… have a shield in one hand, and don’t be afraid to open your heart when the time comes. ?
Say Hi to CAB for us, we miss her ? ?
@ A K => Well said. I am happier alone than I ever was with him.
CAB will be back soon. She’s still working hard in the background ? New projects are happening and are in full swing!!!
Crazy I would “feel his stare” in the dark bedroom at me almost like being in the movie the exorcist very creepy situation among many others…but him and that stupid smile and stare was a strong thing with him…???
Yes, mine had the stare as well along with a stupid grin!
Looks like an Evil clown
I also have seen this state before and he claims he was admiring me and I told him no you weren’t ?
@ K Johnson I bet you got “that stupid stare” when you ousted him smdh ?♀️
I got the “evil crazy stare” but no smirk or smile I text him during an argument at the end of our relationship “What the hell was that about” It would C.R.E.E.P. me out but (when he did it I act like I didn’t see him doing it) What he would also do after texting me send a purple devil faced emoji and he did that often smh
@ D Huxtable => Along with the evil stare, grin, Cleveland Wright Jr also has a snort ?
@ Love From CA – Remember the stories CAB was telling us over his snorting? ???? LOL! We need a catch-up ??????
You ladies are too funny! LOL!
You know you are healing when you can look back and start to laugh about little things. Keep up the good work. We can’t wait for the dynamic duo to be together again. so blessed to have found you ?❤️
Thank you @ D Huxtable ? We are honored to have you part of our tribe! x
Agree! D Huxtable. The energy and chemistry these ladies bring to their videos is addictive. Hopefully one day we can all hang out and enjoy their company.?
I’m one that can and did. I never mind them at all after I’m gone. Nothing. Nada. They really can’t stand the silence and how you can easily walk away. They don’t get the concept its because I love me more because they don’t love themselves. Yes, they come back, nope. Its too late months later, if you wanted to keep me, should have spoken your mind when I left.
A Narcissist only has victims and you have just become another one of those victims.
If you don’t go back to a Narcissist he will be angered and totally pissed that he is no longer in control of you and he will have to find another victim to meet the needs that you met.
A Narcissist does not reminisce about the good times, after all, the good times are the times he spent hoovering, love bombing, gaining control and trapping you.
A Narcissist does not perceive people as people but mere objects of financial gain, someone to cook, clean and look after them, sexual gratification, someone who fulfils their huge emotional void. When you decide to leave and take control they will be angry annoyed and totally pissed that you are the one that got away.
In contrast, they then portray you as the perpetrator and he is the victim, you controlled them. This is all a charade to gain sympathy and empathy from those around him and will be central to gain control of his next victim.
To his next victim, he will portray the characteristics of a victim who only gave you love devotion and you destroyed him after all he wouldn’t hurt a fly ( venus fly trap in motion).
The Narcissist will mirror you as the victim don’t forget they are brilliant at mirror imaging, acting, lying and manipulation it is the way they live and survive. Don’t think that the Narcissist will lovingly look back with some fond memories and regret.
The Narcissist has used abused and in some cases destroyed lives but so what it was all the victim’s fault, after all, they don’t deserve him and will never find anyone like him. ( really if I found someone like him again I would run as fast as I could to avoid them )
If you choose to go back put your heart in a freezer because you return to a cold lonely sad life with someone who will obliterate your existence.
Remember Narcissists are life’s vampire zombies.
Spot on @ Petra S ?
Cleveland Wright Jr was pissed once I unmasked his false self, went no contact and we started raising awareness of his narcissistic abuse through these sites.
He plays the victim, but can not back anything up with his claims. He had his own blog (stage) and to this day can not produce any evidence to his accusations. He visited Australia with girlfriend Lisa Whistler, and all he could do was write an old fashion letter to business associates about his accusations. hahaha! DAMN!
My book is in the making and will be sold on Amazon under comedy!!! ?
He can’t even get his own story right, so many inconsistencies. We do get a good laugh at how some narcs can be so dumb ?
How long is a piece of string?
Narcissists come in all sorts of personalities.
Some might lock themselves away with a bottle of brandy and watch porn for hours every day. Scrape themselves off the floor and go to work as normal.
Others will fill in the blank..
If he is the type that hunts then he will already have groomed or been grooming your replacement and his energies will lie in that direction. Supply is king in his world.
But he may spend a few hours thinking up a few malignant hoovers to upset you. Nasty emails, anonymous phone calls in the middle of the night, stalking you, damaging your property, catfishing you through a dating website, sending one of his flying monkeys to date you to find out what you are saying about him.
He’ll soon lose interest if you ignore him.
There are, of course, a host of variables. He’ll be different if you have children together, or the length of time you’ve been together. Some don’t want to let you go at all while others won’t give you a backwards glance.
Great Post, thank you.
After I threw my ex out, he never attempted to reconcile. I would’ve never considered it if he did. It has been 11 months of hate, maliciousness and self-destructive behavior. He appears to hate me but at the same time seems obsessed with everything I do and can’t let go and move on. I can’t reconcile in my mind what emotions he is truly feeling because I can’t relate to someone with NPD. His behavior is bizarre to me.
Don’t unblock him. There’s no heartfelt apology coming. There’s no phone call with him pouring his heart out to you. You got to your breaking point and blocked him BECAUSE you fucking waited long enough. You waited for him to “change.” He didn’t and won’t.
Don’t UNBLOCK him. ?♀️?
I mean GOD. You gave him SO. MANY. CHANCES. Do you want to be disappointed again? Feel stupid again? Feel tempted to reach out and beg for answers, AGAIN? No. Don’t backtrack. You made a choice, now stick with it. Move on. Seriously. Blocked. Out of sight, out of mind.
Listen. Remember all the pain that this person has caused you. Remember all the sleepless nights. Remember the miserable blur that you were in. Remember when you couldn’t function. Remember when you couldn’t stop crying. They had so many chances to “fix” it and didn’t.
I needed this… thank you… You are my fairy godmother ?♀️…. ?✨?
@ C Imprts bippity boppity block that dude ?❤️
Lol Hear me out sis. I couldn’t block the number but I deleted the contact.
? Is that enough?
@ Shai B => Nope. Not enough. That means that his texts can slip through and completely ruin all the progress you made! Block!
Yesss!! And know that when you’re finally over the whole situation..the person ALWAYS comes back. Always. Don’t fall for it. Move on ✊?
They want power so badly. They want to seem like they don’t care. They want you to chase them. They want your validation to fill that hole inside of them that will never be filled. They want to test you. But the gag is after every test is a new one. And you will always lose.
The saddest part of it all is that it works. It fuckin’ works. You chase them as they wanted. They’ve made themselves seem like this.. mystical, magical, difficult person to reach.. but in reality.. you’ve just come across an incredibly insecure guy who wants his ego stroked
Stay No Contact as you have The POWER, The CONTROL!
“Don’t Be a Silly Woman in A Sick World” – RC Blakes
I missed this post. I loved it, thank you! Please keep posting on these topics. ?
In my experience, this is often SO true. I’ve also noticed the ones who “act” like they’re God’s gift to women are inwardly some of the most insecure ones in the lot ?
I definitely agree with what you said..been there done that and the thought of being back in the dating world just makes me think about this tactic of childish push and pull cause this all niggas do..they never just open and honest it’s always a game
Yo beautiful, if a mans doing this to u, just know, he made someone else feel like a Queen. U just not the one for him
❤️?? keep it moving and try to choose a man with a good heart instead of the fuckboys you been choosing ?
I’m guessing that you’ve only been in unsuccessful relationships and I won’t speak for other niggas cuz ik there are some sneaky ones but I will say that not all are like that, me included.
That’s Basically it ,You are Part of a Cycle with the Narcissist, they Mirror You on the first meeting, learning Everything about You and Your past, they Bad Mouth THEIR EX ,and then put YOU on a Pedestal, they run the game for as long as they feel necessary to get Whatever They desire out of You , sooner or later the BALANCE in the Relationship SHIFTS to the point where Your pulling the wagon 24/7 .
You get Burned out, they Feel it , you push the Wrong button, and Hello, THE MASK COMES off and the REAL THEM is EXPOSED to YOU, then its Basically the end of the road for You,most likely, They Already had someone else lined up to Replace You,the Trianglelation starts ,They rub it in Your face to Further control your emotions, and at the point, YOU GOT TO GET OUT, OF DODGE,IT won’t GET BACK TO THE WAY THINGS WERE when You first met, its All Deception, Illusions, Misdirection, smoke and mirrors Leave and DONT LOOK BACK.
After being with one narc, you’ve been with them all. The games and the tactics are all the same. It’s actually quite funny how predictable they are and how they mistake us all for fools yet we all have their number
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