The Real Cleveland Wright Jr Blog
In today’s topic we have added pages from Cleveland Wright Jr’s Blog to showcase narcissistic behavior.
Once you have a clear understanding of Narcissistic & Cluster B Personality Disorders and how these individuals operate, you can see how this narcissist uses “Projection” and blames everything back onto his victim (s). By watching Dr Carmen Bryant’s video below she will give you an explanation on how a narcissist uses projection.
Cleveland Wright Jr’s Blog is text book Narcissistic Abuse.
If you’ve been or are currently in a relationship with a Narcissist, the abuse and false allegations thrown out you don’t make any sense or you ask yourself “where the fuck did that come from”. You might not realize it at the time, but once you are out of the FOG, you understand the topic a lot clearer.
The Narcissist has given us his confession.
The arrogance behind Cleveland Wright Jr’s own words, the way he has written this blog, the individual has portrayed himself as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, demanding with a hint of gaslighting to his readers.
If you want to get your message across to your readers, at least show some empathy and consideration, as the blog is lacking in these areas.
We are currently in the process of writing an article as we dissect what Cleveland Wright Jr means behind his words.
People with Narcissistic and Cluster B Personality Disorders think differently to ordinary people. To help illustrate and to make sense of the findings, we have requested help of an experienced psychologist to put these findings into layman’s terms to keep it simple for our readers
** Screenshots have been taken from clevelandwright.com. Names have been changed to protect the victim (s) and their families.
Analyzing a Smear Campaign
For our readers out there who are still struggling from narcissistic abuse, and still want answers to the WTF just happened questions, please check out Dr Carmen Bryant videos on YouTube, as she’s very good at explaining things into layman’s terms instead of terms that you need a PhD in to understand.
Unmasking Sociopath “The Real Cleveland Wright Jr” @ clevelandwrightjr.is
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Well, this is because they like to mirror themselves in other people… I think it makes them feel better to offload their issues onto someone else. I didn’t see that this was happening until a year later when I looked back and could say a-ha, I get it now- everything he accused me of, or called me (insecure, cold, mean, etc.) were actually just the reflection he had of himself- but, for some reason it triggered me and I took it all as truths and ended up feeling so completely terrible about myself that I lost who I was and he in turn had full power and control over me- see how that works?
They accuse you of doing things they have done themselves because they are projecting. When they call you crazy it is a way to disorient you and question your reality.
My malignant narc was beyond this though. He never explicitly called me “crazy”. He knew that if he called me crazy that would just validate me more, break my cognitive dissonance and make me further question his behavior. He would tell me I was tired, or that I’m overthinking, he’d say “stop making it sound like I’m some monster” and then ignore me.
When I called him out on something a few weeks after I had surgery, he told me that the anesthesia in my body hadn’t worn off yet, and that I should get some rest. If I ever tried to call him out on anything he would stonewall me and then use triangulation to silence me. He never told me I was crazy, but he made me feel crazy. Isn’t it crazy to suggest to someone that they are evil or a horrible person? That’s what he put into my head. That how could he be so bad, he had so many friends, everyone loves him, you’re the one who still has anesthesia in your body making you crazy, it’s you not me.
He also used my friend’s death to make me feel crazy. He would say “Your friend just passed away, you’re still grieving, don’t take it out on me.”
When he used triangulation against me, it was his way to further silence me. He was saying “Look at all these women who want to take your place as my girlfriend. If i’m such a bad man why do all these women want me? You are crazy, you are the one pushing me away.”
If I gathered the strength to make efforts to leave him, he knew it immediately (like a 6th sense) and then he’d become the sweetest, most passionate man in the world, who knew all the right things to say to soothe me and comfort me.
He knew that as long as I was under his spell, he could do anything he wanted.
As others already answered, they cannot take blames. Therefore they have to rationalize, project and gaslight, to dodge the blames.
Once, I had a dinner with two of my co-workers for my birthday. One male, one female. They used to be dating each other for one and a half year. At the dinner, I was told that they broke up peacefully a few days before my birthday.
By the way, my narc was not at the dinner, because she declared that she wanted to quit our relationship, 2 days before.
Out of sudden, my narc started bombing me with tons of furious messages. Complaining how I can have a dinner with a girl who she hates (my narc is also my co-worker). I had heard my narc complaining about her a couple of times. But I never knew my narc hated her that much. They used to be good friends and would hang out together, up until a couple of weeks before.
Anyway, I apologized profusely, again and again. But no avail. She kept raging on. I gave up.
1 month later, I found out that she had cheated on me with the male co-worker. She had to make up a ‘rightful’ reason to hate me, to cheat on me and to dump me. And she was doubly angry that her new lover was with his ex-gf, because of me. Effectively, she was angry with me because I didn’t help her with her cheating on me.
Their thought process is just so distorted, alien and ridiculous.
Oh. he didn’t know I had been dating her. We kept it a secret. They are planning to get married.
This is a simple phenomenon that occurs commonly in abusive relationships called “Projecting”. I personally have encountered this in my previous narcissistic relationship. Let me give you an example that I have directly experienced:
Your narcissistic partner accuses you of cheating on them. You were home 10 minutes late, you send messages to people of the opposite sex – the list goes on. Although they have no evidence, and many things that are considered healthy and normal in relationships can in their mind be considered cheating or suspicious behaviour.
The psychological reason behind this behaviour is because most of the time, the things a narcissist will accuse YOU of doing, they are doing THEMSELVES. By accusing you of their own behaviour that they subconsciously feel guilty about, they un-rightfully put the blame on you.
This is because they are truly afraid that because they cheated, it will be easy for you to do the same. Abusers and narcissists find cheating to be an ultimate paranoia. Often times they know very well that you are unhappy, but also that there are many other men or women who would love and care for you properly.
The idea of you leaving them and finding someone who truly makes you happy threatens them. This is why moving on and choosing to live a healthy life alone, or with someone else, is the best form of revenge.
Yesss! Now that the FOG and all the mind fuckery has gone, some of the things mentioned in the narcissist’s confession are quite entertaining. Narcissists are not that bright. They leave footprints everywhere and are so predictable. Thank you for your comment Maria x
No matter how much time, effort, logic and proof you put into debate with a narcissist – you will never come out on top.
You could have solid evidence stating your side of the argument including video footage and witnesses. But you will still be wrong.
Narcissists deflect blame. Rarely do they admit to their wrong doings. If they do accept that they did the wrong thing, it’s because of you that they acted that way. Your behaviour made the narcissist say or so those hurtful things.
In order to be sorry for the things you’ve done wrong, you need to be empathetic. Narcissists have no empathy. Narcissists are driven by their negative traits – a sense of entitlement, exhibitionism and explosiveness. They don’t understand the emotions empathy carries. Narcissists usually cannot comprehend the feelings of others nor could they perceive the significance of their actions of immorality.
When someone (narcissistic or not) starts to blame you for something they have done previously, whether you know about it or not, generally they have a guilty conscience. If you accuse someone of being dishonest and they start to deny, and get their back up, usually they are lying.
As mentioned previously, you will never win an argument with a narcissist. Even if you are being told you are the most horrible person for doing the exact same thing as the narcissist- the narcissist will hardly admit fault. But when they do, the narcissist will always blame you for their actions because of the way you acted or something you said.
You need to get back here we Miss you Sis ?
Keep the information going, the more that’s out there on this guy the better for the other victims ?
@LFC Thanks, Chick ? I’m on the West Coast for another couple of weeks, not long now ?? ☀️ ?
I needed this. Thank you for the live video today.
They are blame shifters. They project everything on to the innocent party and their perception is so skewed they may think the other person is at fault. Everything that applies to them will somehow come back on to us but I believe somewhere down the line they feel guilt but to avoid really feeling it they put it back on the other person. They do not acknowledge anything positive. They are not concerned if the other person tried or did the right thing etc. They are oblivious to it. They want to win the argument. They are very dramatic and cut throat and very critical. They won’t thank you or say anything to make you feel okay about anything. All they bring to a relationship is destruction. These people are subhuman and it is time to move on because they cannot give you anything but grief. It is far worse to suffer form narcissistic abuse in the long run by trying to work out these relationships.
Thank You for the comment Lisa. We’re here if you need help ?
The narcissist is legendary for projecting their short comings faults and mistakes into other people. They don’t like the feeling and want to get rid of it.
It’s pretty much a unconscious act, you getting emotional about being accused, helps the transfer be successful. Once they project it into you they can then attack and destroy it. It is not their problem if you get destroyed too.
I could tell exactly what was going on with my ex narcissist by what so was accusing me of. If she was cheating I am called a cheater, she felt broken and unfixable, I was accused of being broken and unfixable. They like to play hot potato with any negative feelings. “I don’t want to feel this way, here you take it.”
If you get emotional then you own whatever they are trying to get rid of.
Hand it back to them, “I am sorry you feel I am cheating on you, is there anything I can do to make you feel better?”
The narcissists I think feel crazy, not normal, most seem to accuse people of being crazy. Cheating too. Projection, if you own it they will let you.
Narcissists get off on confusing, breaking down, and trying to destroy other people. They are so unhappy and insecure to their core, that the only thing that they know to do to build up their own self esteem is by taking away other people’s happiness.
It’s VERY screwed up and twisted. These are not good people in my perception. I was raised by a narc, and I seriously think these people are rotten to the core. The worst part about it is, they have no idea, or will never admit how screwed up they are.
The only thing you can do to save yourself is to seriously get away from the narc, like RUN in the other direction and do not allow them any access to you or your information at all what so ever. live feed was great today. welcome back
I am pretty sure I was married to one. I looked up what it was and she was a dead ringer. She would play the “ Damsel in distress “ card every time there was a question about her actions. She would answer “ I don’t know” every time she was confronted with her narcissistic ways. Never except the fact that she did something wrong. She had no empathy at all. She was like a rock when it came to someone else’s feelings.
One time I was in an emotional state and I was crying. She just stood there and offered no comfort. She didn’t even have an emotional response. She just looked at me like nothing was going on. Even my 4 year old daughter knew something was wrong and came and hugged me.
Her accusations towards me were always what she was doing to me. I would try to make her see what she was doing and tell her that we both knew it and why was she lying, she would go into the distressed mode and say “ I don’t know”.
I now see that everything I wrote was because she was incapable of having any true feelings towards even our children. She wasn’t and never will be a good parent because of this.
I thought maybe sharing this would help you better understand why a narcissist acts they way they do and sheds blame on others. In laymen terms I guess you could simplify it down to they are selfish and self centered all the way to their roots.
Hope this helped.
Keep up the good work x
I’m gonna let you in on this one. These are the things you should know about narcissist’s.
First off narcissists will NEVER take the blame.
Narcissists will NEVER admit there guilt.
Narcissists will ALWAYS blame others no matter if it’s there mistake.
Narcissists are all about THEMSELVES.
Everything they do is for THEM.
No matter how crazy they sound they will stand there ground. In there mind they have totally cut out the fact that they did something. It dosent even cross there mind. Narcissists DO NOT like to take blame for there own actions, instead they find it easier to blame others. Love your work babe ??
What they’re doing could be either one of two things.. Projecting or gas lighting.
With projecting they’ll accuse you of doing something they themselves are doing.
With gas lighting..
Hi Chrissy, it’s actually both. End of the day the Narcissist has been exposed and the smear campaign on the victim (s) that we all know about comes from his Narcissistic Injury. A 2yo having a tantrum and not having it his way. Thank you for the comment x
Short answer: to save their fragile ego. It’s called projection. That type of behavior is signature narcissistic behavior. The inability to admit any wrongdoing or failings. The fear of being exposed. To save face, they blame you for the very thing(s) they did wrong to divert the negative attention off of themselves and save their seemingly perfect reputation (in their minds only.) They do so very loudly and publicly to be sure they are not the one looked down upon. Sometimes to the point of paranoia.
I personally have experienced this. It was my first experience with such paranoia, deceit and pathological lying. I was either naive or just was fortunate enough not to have run across such mind-blowing behavior before. It really threw me for a loop initially until I sought help for myself and educated myself.
One thing I learned, don’t expect things to change, improve or that you can help this person. They are very broken, beyond repair. You may find a few diagnosed narcs who have “accepted” their diagnosis, yet some of their responses are clearly faulty. In other words, denial. Sometimes they have enlightening experiences to share, but take it with a grain of salt.
The best thing you can do for your own sanity is separate yourself from this toxic person. I do feel pity for them because they are so broken and miserable and my empathetic side initially wanted to help them but I quickly learned that I was only digging myself into a hole that was dark and self-destructive. No contact is the only answer to keep your sanity in tact.
I can’t wait to see breakdown of the blog. ❤️ This Narcissist like all narcissists has just given his confession or given himself away. They’re so predictable.
Great to have you back special lady ?
@ Reggie B I’ve experienced feeling sorry for them & truly reached out to them in Love. Like you I soon found out that it made my circumstance’s much worse. Yes I’ve experienced the same as you…accusing me of the things they done wrong. NO CONTACT IS THE ONLY WAY TO GO & TRY TO RELOCATE. THE FINANCIAL MESS IVE BEEN LEFT IN IS MORE THAN I CAN HANDLE.
Thank You Reggie. Once you’ve been away from the situation, you don’t realise how evil these individuals are. We have started to add some of the Narcissists messages to the website to showcase his Narcissistic Abuse. At the time I hadn’t realised that the whole situation was a setup and a game for this individual. How he gaslighted, silent treatments, triangulation, manipulation, name calling, body shaming, provoked me, all for a reaction. I felt off about him from our very first video chat. I’m so happy that we only met up a couple of times, and knowing that he cheats on all his supplies, they can deal with this disease carrier and all his baby mamas & ex dramas. My standards are high and he doesn’t even come close. Its a breath of fresh air!
There are many good responses here already, regarding the crazy calling and blame, silent treatments, etc.
In many of the responses is related to the accusations. It is true that projection can be a part of this, but, also, if you are dealing with a person who is malicious, they will often act in a certain manner, and accuse you of such behaviour, because they are hiding their tracks.
When the attention is put to you, and you are put on the defensive, and you try to defend yourself, no one is looking at the person accusing you anymore. And many times, you can not ‘prove’ anything either way, because this person has been very careful to ensure that you are in a situation by their design where it’s a he said she said kind of situation.
People who trap wild animals often trudge through snow to set their tracks, but then, they backtrack into their footprints, and sweep more snow into the prints, using an evergreen branch. This hides all visual evidence that they were there, setting the trap, and then the evergreen branches cover up their smell.
This is the conduct of these sort of people.
This is true Chrissy, That’s why this Narcissist targets women abroad on dating sites. It’s easier for him to have his cake and eat it too. With different time zones, he can have many supplies from different parts of the world and still have his supplies local. It’s harder or takes longer to detect his wicked ways if you’re abroad, but once things don’t start adding up and you start asking questions of him, then his true self begins to emerge. As they say, always look at their actions and not their words.
Once I exposed him on the www he went and covered all his tracks. Why? If you believe you’re so innocent and genuine to yourself, there’s nothing to hide.
Like all Narcissists, this individual makes you believe that you’re in a relationship with them; he even went to extremes to mention this on his blog, like WTF. I never fell for this manipulation tactic, but I did question him about it that if he wanted a relationship, why are still on dating sites etc.; as that’s a big RED FLAG! And if they’re not flaunting their current supply on his social media pages its because he doesn’t want his other supplies to know about his fake believe relationship, which is another RED FLAG! Con Man & a Romance Scammer
I have been married to a “soul suckling vampire for many years. My husband traveled until 2 years ago for his job. He hid this side from me. I have come to realize that he was never the man I thought he was. I thought he was evil for the things he did, once he revealed his “true” self. He will never confess to his double life and o am beginning to accept the truth. This last year he has tried to convince my family and I that I’m having a nervous breakdown. He does this as I begin to piece together his actions. Luckily I have family that see what he is doing. Yes it is very difficult to be in a relationship with someone like this. It will take time to heal from this relationship and hopefully I will become stronger and more loving on the other side. This article describes our marriage perfectly. Thank you!
Welcome Hello from NZ! ☺
It’s important to realize that all of these strategies and many others are designed to manipulate and control. They achieve that through tearing down the person’s sense of sanity, sense of self, their sense of being a person who does the right thing and is a good person; basically anything that matters to the victim, is the primary target for the narcissist to destroy. When you come to this realization, it’s critical to recognize you likely did try and did all the best you could possibly do and you need to let go, get free emotionally, rebuild your life and move on. Here are strategies to help with that process. Best
As difficult as it is to understand you have to realize that it isn’t about the other person, it’s about the NPD. Part of their coping mechanism is projecting, they can’t intergrate the bad things they’ve done with their perfect false self image so they project their bad deeds onto the person closest to them.
As much as it hurts you it’s actually not about you and everything to do with saving themselves.
It’s not a very comforting answer, but it’s the truth.
As many of the others have said, with a narc, it’s all about projection. They need to offload and transfer all of their flaws onto you so they can continue believing in the false mask they wear to con everybody (including themselves). It’s more evidence of their stunted emotional development, as they are unable to perceive things as mature adults who take responsibility for their faults and failings and try to improve themselves. A narc never takes responsibility or feels accountable for anything. In their minds nothing is ever their fault, and so you have a classic recipe for the projection blame and shame game. That also serves to put their victim on the defensive so the narc can maintain control.
Have you ever examined why you have such a need to understand a person who treats you as if your feelings do not matter? The truth is these sorts of people do not give you or anyone else a second thought. There are more empowering things you could focus on! Dont waste your precious time and energy 9n negative, cruel people. Why? You’re better than that 🙂
Smear campaigns can be brutal. The reality is that no matter what you want, people will be directed by their own thoughts. Narcissists can be great at influencing others. They can make long-time friends think twice about their association with you. A smear campaign is more than simple mudslinging. It’s an all-out war. The problem is that the narcissist is coming to the battlefield with air-strikes and nukes while you’re likely showing up with a pitchfork and lighter.
Giving up mutual friends (or friends in general) is difficult but if they’re moved enough by the narcissists campaign to follow it. You’re at a loss already. Turn away and avoid any collateral damage that can occur in the blast zone.
The next best thing, if you’re equipped to go into battle, is to take calculated, preemptive strikes. Talk to the mutual friends in advance. Don’t petition for their alliance. Rather, just allow them to understand that they’re going to likely be caught up in.
I think they were always smearing us. It just escalates when the formal “relationship” is over. It may stop afterwards or it may be reinvigorated by something or a someone later on.
I would like to say that they go away but they just don’t. The other day I had one do a check-in on me through a mutual colleague. I really had it in my head that this person (former boss) would have moved on to other things. However, 7 yrs later there they are trying to see what I am doing. Yuck!
On a similar note, I just had a very, very short lived romantic relationship with one of the malignant variety that ended in a very, very bad way. I don’t know if he will pop-up again but I am not going to fool myself into thinking that he is similar to me and has moved on. I can’t live in fear but I cannot afford to ignore that it is a real possibility.
Hope this helps.
I’m really excited that this news about narcissism is spreading like a wildflower. Social media, movies, church, so on and so on! People are becoming more aware and I’m excited about this! CAB you’re awesome! Keep up the fabulous work! ❤️☺️?
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